How to Sext - Yes, You Can

We know, we bet you’re uncomfortable reading the title already. But don’t be! 

We’ve all heard about sexting. It may have been through a difficult parenting phase with your teen, or maybe you’ve heard about it at your last girls’ trip. Maybe you’ve been thinking about it, but you’re too nervous to try. It’s time to learn how to sext!

It’s our mission to help you feel powerful and confident in the bedroom, so get your notepad out, you gorgeous woman. We’ve made it super easy to learn the ropes and start texting your loverboy today. 

Get Over Your Nerves

You’re nervous. It’s totally understandable! Sexting can feel unnatural and permanent if it’s not something you are practiced at. But remember: you’re sending them to the love of your life, and it’s safe to explore this titillating activity with them.

Learning how to sext all starts with gathering the gumption. Roll your neck. Take a few deep breaths. Remind yourself you are a powerful and confident woman who deserves a spicy love life. There is nothing wrong with sexting, so release any awkwardness and make room for a damn good time. 

Start With You

What would you want in a sext? Would you prefer your partner to randomly sext you while you’re at work? Would you find it hot for them to sext you while you’re sitting together at a restaurant? Or maybe you’d prefer them to slide you a sexy message while you’re both visiting a friend’s home.

Think about what would turn you on and use that as a starting point. That way, you can feel some excitement and use it as motivation to get the party started. 

It Doesn't Have to be a Romance Novel

Remind yourself you don’t have to write a book. There is no plot you need to create (although if you want to–go for it). There’s no right or wrong way to do it.  You can keep it short and sweet for the first few rounds. Think of this as your training time. That way, you build up your sexting muscle, and who knows? You might be sending walls of sext texts in no time (we would love that for you!). 

But really–it’s totally fine to keep it short. This adds mystery and keeps your lover on their toes. 

So, Like, What Do I Say?

Ah… the meat and potatoes. Here’s why you’re reading this article anyway! We have some options you can literally copy and paste right now that will give you a good starting point for your sexting over 40 journey. 

• “I’m at work, but all I can think about is that one time we (insert past intimate moment they’ll remember… fondly).”

• “I know you’re out with the guys but remember–I’m home waiting to (insert favorite intimate activity) with you when you get back. ;)”

• “You look so handsome right now. I can’t wait to have my way with you after we leave this party.”

You’re Ready, We Promise

Now you have all the goods: you’ve released the anxiety, you’ve given yourself a little pep talk, and you’ve learned how to sext. You’re even prepped with a few starter sexts. It’s time to partake in sexting over 40!

Looking to extend the play beyond the digital sexting buildup? We’ve got you and your sex life covered.