Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex After 50

Sex after 50 is similar to having sex in your 20s, just wayyyyyyy better. No really, sex after 50 can be incredible - even the data says so. 

According to a poll from OnePoll, couples in their 50s have better sex lives in their fifth decade than when they were younger. Couples in their 50s also report having sex regularly and enjoying a higher quality sexual experience.

This fact is not exactly surprising for many women. In our 50s, we’re in a period of our lives where we’re able to discover new things about ourselves and let go of old notions that don't serve us today. Also, we care less about what others think of us. 

Maybe this means we let go of some of the aspects of our relationship that don’t matter (and stop nagging about it). Or it means that we finally accepted our bodies for the miraculous beings that they are. With these new discoveries, it means we have the time to rediscover what we love sexually and try new things.

Sex after 50 isn't all sexy, breathy love whispers and seductive embraces though. Dealing with changes to hormones, libido, bladder control, hot flashes, and weight gain can seem like enough to stop your sex life altogether.

However, these natural changes aren’t a death sentence, but you may have to approach sex differently than you have in the past. You have half of your life left to live and it’s worth figuring out what works best for you (and your partner!) at this state. 

Here’s a starting point to get you going -  a few reasons why sex after 50 can be incredible.

It's All About Quality Vs. Quantity

Remember in your 20s how you would get right at it, assume the same few positions, wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am, and call it a day? While it might have been more frequent sex, it doesn't necessarily mean that you were utterly dazzled each time you got to it. It was pretty frenetic. 

Sex after 50 is all about focusing on the quality of the sex you're having instead of the number of times it happens and rushing to the climax. This means spending time exploring new pleasures and fantasies, being more honest with your partner about what you like, and gathering up the gumption to suggest new things you’d love to try. 

More Time Is Spent on Sexual Experiences

While it is true that women will need more foreplay to experience an orgasm when having sex after 50 and men need more physical contact to get (and keep) an erection, this isn’t a bad thing. It means you get to enjoy more time together. There's no rush to get it done or worry that your young kids will pop in on you making love. Even better, when you take your time the intimacy of sex increases, creating more meaning and connection every time you have sex.

The Definition of Sex Expands

Instead of jumping into bed to immediately get down to business, couples in their 50s often find that the idea of sex is about a lot more than the actual intercourse and orgasm. There’s an opportunity to expand to more of the other sensual activities such as stroking, touching, massaging, and kissing. The extra benefit here is that those undertakings often make the actual intercourse even better. 

Meet Lubricant - Your New Best Friend

Of course, it's natural when you have a drop in estrogen to experience some dryness. However, that doesn't have you stop you from enjoying sex with the help of your new best friend: lubricant (AKA lube or intimacy serum). In fact, lube gives you an opportunity to play and enjoy sex with each other even more.