Your Female G Spot + A Navigation Guide for Him

“Lower. To the right, I guess. No, um. Uh. Higher? Ugh, I don’t know!” 

That’s exactly the opposite of the pillow talk you want to be having while exploring your female G spot with your lover. To avoid that, here’s the ultimate guide to your G spot for you and him. 


What Is It? 

The female G-spot (also known as the Grafenberg spot) is an area on the inner front of the vagina, very sensitive to touch and potentially capable of producing a very intense orgasm with stimulation. Oh, la la!

It was introduced by Dr. Beverly Whipple after she discovered that using a “come here” finger motion along the inside of the vagina produced a physical response in women. 

Some sex researchers believe that instead of being its own separate spot, the G spot is part of your entire magical network down there. The G spot region can vary from woman to woman which explains why it can often be difficult to locate (insert joke here). 


Is It Even Real? 

There’s quite a bit of controversy about whether the female G spot actually exists or not.

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2017 did not find any evidence whatsoever of the G-spot's existence.  

But another study published in the same journal found that, although the G-spot is not a "discrete anatomic entity," increased sensitivity in the anterior region of the vagina does exist.

While this may be hotly debated by sex researchers, it doesn’t really matter. Because if it curls your toes, who cares what the scientists say. 


Aging Good News

Due to the thinning walls of the vagina, as we get older, female G-spot orgasms are easier to achieve.  High fives all around for this incredible little bonus!


Not One Size Fits All

Not all women will find satisfaction through G spot stimulation. That’s ok! Give it a try and if it’s not your thing, move on to something else that gets your motor running. 


** FOR HIM **

Hello, Handsome! First, thanks for your willingness to play and explore your lovely lady’s G spot. Below are some tips to get you started. You’re going to do great, so take a deep breath and enjoy!


How To Find It 

Ok, we all know there are all kinds of jokes about this, but finding the G spot can be difficult. So don’t be hard on yourself if it takes a little time. The spot is generally about two inches in and one inch up inside of her, but her exact spot may be in a slightly different place. So don’t be afraid of exploring. 

Start by relaxing her and getting her in the mood. This isn’t a medical procedure, so it would help to warm her up and get her in the mood with your powers of seduction.

When she’s ready, insert your fingers or a toy. Then lift upward toward her belly button in a “come hither” motion. You’re not trying to hit a specific button but rather finding what feels best for her in that general region. Repeat the motion as the sensation builds, and — instead of an in-and-out movement — you’ll want to keep focusing your attention on the pressure in this area.

Most importantly, listen to her cues so that you know what she’s liking. 


Best Positions to Stimulate It

If you’re ready to move beyond your fingers or toys, there are three positions that work great for the G spot: cowgirl, doggy style and closed missionary position (her legs are closed and yours are straddling hers). 


Lastly & Most Importantly 

Loving each other is the most important part of this G-spot endeavor. Exploring is a great step in making sure you have a shared pleasurable sex life. So if your first attempt at G-spot stimulation isn’t a total success, just keep experimenting. After all, practice makes perfect, right?


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